There are many ways that a wife can show her husband her love for him. We have to change the "me" outlook to the "us" outlook. Now a day's there is too much separateness between couples. She does her thing and he does his thing, and they barely do anything together. All of this separateness is truly dangerous for couples, emotionally speaking.
We have to change our attitude and perspective by making it a point to include our husbands in our lives, no matter what it is we are doing. If God created marriage as "one flesh" of mind, body, and soul than when we live separate lives from our husbands we are essentially rebelling against our God-given role for marriage. If we are rebelling against God's design then we will have marital problems.
A healthy marriage is an intimate relationship. Intimacy has to be created with our husbands through our emotional, physical and spiritual affections. There is too much thinking that "we don't love our husbands anymore" attitude! Too many married couples do everything apart from one another, which can cause emotional detachment and separation. It is at these times, when neither spouse is intimately involved emotionally with the other that infidelities materialize in the marriage.
We often tell couples, especially women to not reject their husbands sexually but just as important to marriage is to not contradict our husbands emotionally and spiritually. When we act as if we don't care about what our husbands have to say or when we discount their loving lead over us, or when we contradict them, then we are essentially saying that what they say and do is somehow wrong or does not meet up to our standards. Emotionally, this is very damaging to the intimacy aspect of the marriage. Many wives do this to themselves by allowing the worlds views to seep into their hearts and minds.
When we refuse our husbands management and protection we're saying that what he has to say isn't important. When a wife is too independent to mind the things of her husband, or to consider his thoughts, ideas, and decisions in the marriage then he is most certainly going to feel rejected, discounted and demeaned by his wife. Is that what you want? A husband who feels inadequate in his abilities as the man of the marriage? In a Godly marriage, the wife is to be her husbands help meet not his obstacle meet. And then these very same women wonder why their husbands are meeting up with women on social networking sites and texting and flirting. Duh!
God created the man to be the decision-maker and management overseer of the home and family, but when the wife usurps her husband's role, he may be tempted to find emotional attachment where he thinks the grass seems greener. It's a natural response to an unhealthy home environment. Emotional adultery runs rampant in marriage today. And the advent of social networking websites is just another tool where dejected and demeaned husbands can find emotional and possibly sexual attachments.
Of course there is no justification for committing infidelities in marriage but when we are rejected and demeaned by our spouse it can sure make that grass across the fence look greener than what we got. It is at these times when we need to sincerely pray for our spouse to come into the light and truth. And we need to pray for ourselves that we do not break down and do anything against the sanctity of the marriage. God listens!
The Christian culture of today is very vain and self-righteous in its thinking. Wives are not encouraged by society to love their husbands or nurture their marriage. In fact they are encouraged to treat their man with contempt. Is that not selfish and self-righteous? Today most wives are encouraged by society to be independent, apart from their husbands and only care about themselves. And it is this, which is killing marriage and causing the adultery pandemic we are experiencing today in Christian marriage.
Why do you think God made Eve with Adam's rib? He didn't have to use Adam's rib, but He did. This is to show that woman comes from man and once she is married he is her covering and protector. A wife becomes "one" with her husband and she is to be beside him in her help meet role. It is an unselfish, love and respect kind of role. Woman was not made out of man's feet to be below him, nor was she made from his head, to be above him, but she was made from his rib, to be beside him.
Think of your husband above yourself and stop looking to society to tell you what to think and what to do in your marriage. Look to Jesus Christ instead and let Him be your example. This is how a Christian wife should love her Christian husband.
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